Life is Good

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It's been too long since I have been here. A Blog entry is supposed to be a "snippet" of information. Just enough to leave the reader with food for the brain and too much can cause brain acid reflux.
But, in this case my words will be more... take what you like and toss the rest. After all, I am a "yenta"
I am sick. I haven't "been" sick but, now that I am "sick" I think there's a certain authenticity that lends itself to the spoken word. "Sick". I am getting better and I am sure in a few months time I will reflect...."sick? who me?".
Facebook is riddled with  "stuff"....birthdays....anniversaries....vacations....holidays....oh and the dreaded politics!..Twitter follows....
Bodily ailments...misery does like company!..sort your homepage...and take a gander....
In any event, the best advice I can offer today is...if it makes you feel better to spout your problems, issues, etc. Go for it....do whatever it is that can make YOUR life good...
Life is good if you allow it.....but, there's one caveat....YOU need to work at it
The Employment Yenta...Just call me "T"

It's a Wrap

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I have been remiss in my posts and one of my resolutions is to be more diligent in imparting "pearls of wisdom"...(this comes with the disclaimer..."results may vary...don't try this at work")...and...writing posts are easier than losing weight!  Am I taking the easy way out?
It has been a year of pluses and minuses and if the +'s outweigh the -'s we have it made
Earlier in the year, I introduced you to a "Mensch"....a "Mensch" is a person who is good not because they have to be or want to be....they just are....
My "Mensch" goes out of his way, helping people....he helps those who can't see cross the street, lifts strollers down subway steps, takes food to the homeless who live in the subways....he never asks for anything in return....because he is a "Mensch"
The best gift of all arrived yesterday....a surprise...a letter...and..some Chanukah Gelt....all from my "Mensch"....
I hope your Holidays are filled with joy and health...
Have a sweet New Year (American Style)
Your Employment Yenta (Just call me "T")

Communicate...Communicate.....Communicate....

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Silence can be golden...
However, there's a time and place for everything.
Dear Readers..you know your Yenta is never at a loss for words..but, I still struggle with delivering an "unfavorable" message.
After all, even Yenta's are human...
The point is....the right feedback can change the course of someone's life...communication is part of paying it forward...
Your Employment Yenta...(Just call me "T")

Not What's Next...

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It's been way too long since my last post ....in life...it's not always "What's Next"...it's "What's Important"....
Of course it's important to perform well in our work and we strive to be the best we can be to meet the ever changing demands on our time...
Here are  thoughts to consider... when you've had words with your spouse? OR You  find yourself alone on a Saturday night....who do you go to?....the guy in the next office..or your famly and friends....
Put things in perspective..."what's important" is how we develop ourselves while engaging in "what's next"...
Never lose sight of the people you love who take the time to love you back...these are the ties that bind us and give us the bandwidth to adapt to change,....
Your Employment Yenta....(Just call me "T")

Have You Given at the Office?

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Sorry for the long delay between posts..I know you all must have missed me!:)
Today, I wanted to chat about a topic near and dear to me...FEEDBACK....how many times has someone said something to you that makes your insides jump up and down...you bite the insides of your cheeks fighting back the urge to "tell them off"...or...you go for an interview and you find yourself in the black hole...known to us all as "the void".
You and you alone have the power to effect change...certainly not for the faint or sensitive..
Once you decide that you are in charge of your own destiny, you can begin...(small steps, dear ones)...to teach others and manage them to your own advantage.
Now, perhaps that didn't come out exactly as I meant it...BUT, that IS the point....feedback can be a scary proposition...you may "get" some feedback you weren't banking on...however, you can't expect a person to change if they don't know "what" to change..
Whether you give feedback at the office or in your personal life....you are standing up for you...
Who else can take better care of you than you?.....well...maybe an Employment Yenta..
Your Employment Yenta...(Just call me "T")

Note to my younger self

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CBS This Morning has a Friday segment..."Note to my younger self"...some .people highlighted have been Dr. Ruth and Art Garfunkle....I did a google search and learned...this idea is nothing new...and  there are  many entries on the Internet..

My mind was racing...I am not famous...or rich....but, my life has been a woven tapestry of experiences rich with lessons learned...some easier than others....and this..… "Note to my younger self" …with a dedication to my son, Daniel…

It wasn't easy for me to have you, Dan... I followed my mother’s lead, and,  had you later in life....there were miscarriages....surgeries....medicines......

We were about to give up when a miracle occurred....a heartbeat...your heartbeat...you were alive inside of me...as you grew stronger the months flew by and I knew you would arrive safely...perhaps not on schedule, .but, I was prepared....I can still recall the nurse's voice as you entered the world..."It's a boy and he's adorable"....I think I was scared to death as the responsibility of "you" became reality....how can I know what to do?...how can I know what to say?....silly me, it all comes on naturally...."you just know"....there isn't a right or a wrong...we make it up as we go along...the first few weeks were scary as I began my new job of being your mom...I was lucky to have the good fortune of being at home with you and dad was patient as he kept his promise, ”Have a baby, I’ll do everything” and  yes…he did everything... But, ...your first pediatrician appointment came with a shock as the doctor thought she heard something out of sync...our visit with a pediatric cardiologist confirmed that there was a "hole" in your heart and I think I felt a "hole" gnawing in me….

The next few years proved to be difficult....we lost my dad..”, your grandpa”....the man who read The New York Times to you instead of a story...I know you can't recall, but, he made the financial news sound like a fairytale...as I reflect, there was more truth to that than not!......as we continued to monitor your heart  it became apparent that we would need to take action to address your problem...and...BOOM...another setback...Dad's place of business closed.....we were left with bills...bills and more bills....no medical insurance and no more doctor visits for you...it's at this point in my life that I gathered all the strength I could muster and made a deal with myself that no matter what, our little family would make it through...I began a quest to protect the nucleus…our family…

Born into an adult family, I came as a "surprise"....my brother was almost fourteen years my senior...I'm sure he was wondering..."why me" ....I was a thorn in his side as the words resonated from my mother, "take your sister with you!"....over the years as we "caught up" in age...we bridged the gap and we shared the phenomena of a sibling relationship.....the one who knows you longer than anyone else...a spouse, parent and child..."Bobby" celebrated your birth and became your Godfather....he visited you every day in your infancy and was disappointed if he arrived and you were sleeping. He was not a person who wanted children of his own but, you were special to him....his nephew....his blood and someone he could protect…in the prime of his life....he was taken from us ...his body giving in to the terrible disease of cancer. I think at that moment my life changed forever…I wasn’t a “little sister”.

Four short weeks after Bobby’s passing, my mom, mommy, “gramma” et al went to sleep and never awoke. She had not been sick and although she had “us”…Dad, me and you…she could not withstand the loss of her son…her boy…it was Halloween and I thought that the Universe had played the biggest trick on me and us and I became an adult orphan…

Adult, survival, inventive, these became the new words in my vocabulary. Dan, the way the hair on the back of your head formed a swirl….I could pick you out in a group of hundreds…zoning in and remarking….”there he is…that’s my swirl”…You gave me courage to try things I never thought possible and as I sit here and reflect on the times that weren’t so good, I know the not so good times  allowed me to  treasure the good times…the year we spent as the NJ Poster Child for the hospital that “fixed” your heart…..dad finding a second career and going on to finish his Masters’…tackling the financial setbacks and moving forward.

You grew up quickly and have depth beyond your years. I read the things your write and I am marveled at the gift you have with words…I sit back and say…this is my son, my boy, “my guy” and my butch…. the music you create plays in my head..….I could not have accomplished my purpose without you…you have taught me so much…you are fair and honest…..and sometimes (even now), when I get angry and I think someone has wronged me..…you have the ability to make me understand that all people make mistakes and everyone deserves a second chance…..This “Note to my younger self” is a synopsis of my journey….If I didn’t have you then perhaps, I would have remained in my younger self…..and…perhaps, I wouldn’t be able to appreciate the more matured self I have become…not Forever Young…

Dear readers…we all have a younger self…what’s yours?

Your Employment Yenta…(Just call me “T”)…..Happy Holidays….be safe….

 

 

B.L.O.G.

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It's been a very busy past few months and although I haven't had much time to "Blog", I have been collecting thoughts and nuggets to share...
So...what is a B.L.O.G??..
B....believing...
L....living...
O....owning
G....giving
When you believe in something, you live it....
Owining opinions affords you the gift of giving them....
The best advice I can offer....
When people remember you.,....make sure they smile...
Your Employment Yenta ....(Just call me "T")